Are our kids being naughty or normal?

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My kids are the masters of pushing my buttons. It’s like they secretly huddle up every morning, (hands in) and plot out what they are going to do each day to make my life difficult, (and BREAK!)

Is this really what’s happening though? Maybe they are just normal little human beings…you know, real people just like us. I truly don’t believe our kids are naughty brats to try to make our lives miserable. I believe they are just like us, trying to figure out the world, and dealing with all the stress that comes with it. Its not easy for us, so how can it possibly be easy for them?

When we tackle each day, and nothing goes right, we react. When children tackle each day, and nothing goes right, they also react. How are our problem more significant than theirs? Just because we are dealing with “the bigger issues” doesn’t mean their issues are less significant.

It’s seems like we are always comparing our problems to other people’s problems. We are very judgemental about it also. “he/she think THEY have problems?” I think this also is the case with our children. I know not being able to locate your left shoe┬áis not life threatening, but to them, neither is not being able to pay the electric bill.

They may be little, but they still have worries. When they throw a fit, yes…most of the time they are just being unreasonable assholes, but sometimes it may be more than that. Sometimes they may not be trying to act naughty, they may just be having a really bad day. Just like normal everyday people. I have bad days all the time. (That sounds so depressing.) I have bad days SOMEtimes. I lash out. I act like a child and I usually take it out on the people I love most in my life because that’s just what we do. I don’t mean to do it, but sometimes you just get so caught up in things, that you just don’t think it through. Most of the time our reactions to situations burst out before we ┬árealize it’s happening.

Tantrum now – stop, think, and breathe after. Ridiculous right? But we do it ALL OF THE TIME.

We are adults and we do this. Our kids have even less control over things. They have less ability to think things through. Maybe not “ability” but kids seldomly ever stop and analyze, well, ANYTHING.

So sometimes when we think they are just being naughty – maybe they arent. Maybe they are just being normal.

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